YOUR CHILD IS INVOLVED IN CHEATING, WHAT TO DO?
From using old ways of breaking into a lecturers room, bribing the lecturer’s secretary to hacking the lecturer’s computer to gain access to the exams, students have devised more high-tech methods of cheating, employing the latest technologies available to them.
Every one desires to get good grades at the end of his/her study period. While some will take their time and study diligently for these grades and pursue their careers of choice successfully, others will want to use others’ knowledge to get the same good grades. A question immediately comes up, will these two students perform the same in their careers (same or different)? While one will be successful, the other will naturally turn out to be just making the numbers and will not survive for long when output is measured. This is because while one will be employing his/her hard earned skills in doing his/her work, the other wont have any skill to employ because he/she missed the fundamentals and necessary knowledge required, he/she only got the grades right!
In most cases, cheating develops into a habit, and the risk of extending this to the work place is high. What employer would want to have a dishonest employee anyway?
So you have just found out now that your child is cheating? Sit down and ask yourself several questions, when did this start? Is it possible that he/she has been involved in cheating in all his/her exams? Why should he/she cheat? Can you help him/her out of this situation? Try and get some answers to these questions then sit down with him/her and talk with the single aim of assisting him/her:
(a) Self-belief. Let your child have self-belief in him/herself. Let him/her believe that he/she has the capacity to undertake anything as a student and do it successfully without unneeded support. Self-belief is a strong virtue that builds confidence.
(b) Weak areas. Try and help your child know the areas he/she is weak in and figure out how he/she can be helped. There might arise the need to get the services of a tutor to give extra coaching in those areas.
(c) Tests. Let your child understand what tests are meant to achieve and let him/her appreciate them. Tests are meant to check how well a student understands a subject. A poor grade in a particular subject simply means that the child has not understood the subject well. Let him/her do revisions and study with the aim of understanding the subject.
(d) Organization. Educate your child on the importance of being organized. Let him/her know when to do what and when to study. Let him/her make this a routine and it will stick.
(e) Group studies. Encourage your child to participate in group studies. This gives him/her different perspectives of studying.
(f) Knowledge. Let your child understand that it is wrong to jump the gun. Let him/her know the benefit of getting the knowledge first before the grade and not vice-versa.
You have the biggest role to play if you have realized that your child is involved in cheating. As Robert Frost writes in his book ‘The Road Not Taken’, two roads diverged in a wood, the one less travelled by, and that has made all the difference. You can help your child travel on the less travelled road.
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